The word “boutonniere” comes from the French boutonnière, which means “flower in the buttonhole”. Today the boutonniere is an accessory for a man’s suit and represents one or more flowers / buds in a buttonhole.
Boutonnieres appeared in ancient Greece. In those days, men at a wedding ceremony attached a small bouquet of flowers and herbs to their clothes. This was done in order to protect themselves from evil spirits, and the groom’s boutonniere was attached close to his heart. That is, the groom’s boutonniere was not just a decoration, but a “protective measure” - after all, evil spirits, according to legend, could ward his heart from being narrowed. Well, in Europe, the tradition of decorating clothes with a bouquet appeared only in the Middle Ages. Then the knights, as a sign of love and devotion to the lady of the heart, wore flowers on their chests - and not only at the wedding. Removing the armor, they pinned a bouquet to clothes close to their hearts. During the French Revolution, the boutonniere became a symbol of fearlessness: the nobles, who climbed the scaffold, put a red carnation in the buttonhole - it symbolized fearlessness. At the beginning of the 19th century, boutonnieres wore a dandy: a flower in a buttonhole became their identification mark. Representatives of the labor movement - participants in the demonstrations - wore red carnations when red flags were banned - from the 40s of the 19th century.
Now boutonnieres are not common in everyday life and are a festive accessory.
The groom’s buttonhole is part of a tradition that has evolved over the centuries. There is a certain rule according to which the bride chooses a boutonniere for the groom, and he, in turn, chooses a bouquet for the bride. But this rule is not true: it is better to think about the boutonniere to the florist. The shape and composition of the boutonniere depends on the flowers in the bride’s bouquet and on the wedding theme in general. The hair clip with which the boutonniere is attached to the jacket should not be visible from the side. Any decor can be used to design a buttonhole: decorative wire, satin ribbons, feathers.
Speaking of materials: a wedding boutonniere can be made from natural flowers, as well as from artificial ones - from beads, fabric and other materials. It all depends on the imagination of the florist and the wishes of the newlyweds.
If the choice of the bride and groom stops at a boutonniere of fresh flowers - you should take care of a spare. Fresh flowers fade very quickly - even processed with a special composition. In addition, fragile petals of fresh flowers may not withstand several careless movements.
Currently, boutonnieres made of artificial flowers, boutonnieres made of satin, and beads are becoming increasingly popular - it is due to a number of advantages. Firstly, the artificial boutonniere will not fade. Secondly, the fantasy here is endless: you can choose any color, texture. Finally, in the cold season, a wedding boutonniere made of artificial flowers is an ideal option. The wedding boutonniere should not be particularly large - this small decoration should complement the suit of the groom, but in no way distract attention. Therefore, the flowers should be small and elegant. Well, if the wedding boutonniere is decorated with ribbons, it looks more elegant with them. In any case, you need to remember that the groom’s boutonniere must be combined with his suit and the bride’s bouquet.
Sometimes boutonnieres adorn the costumes of witnesses and even the costumes of the closest male relatives. This is the choice of personal preferences of the couple.
Some men categorically refuse to decorate their wedding jacket with flowers. For them there is an alternative - a pocket scarf. It can be either white (classic version, modest and tasteful), or color - it all depends, again, on the imagination and preferences of the groom. Previously, there was a tendency to select a scarf to match a tie, now this option is recognized as old-fashioned, and bold contrasts replaced it. The emphasis on the pocket favorably emphasizes the overall picture, makes the groom's suit even more stylish.
In general, we can say that there are no specific rules for choosing a wedding boutonniere or scarf: the main thing is that this small accessory should be in harmony with the costume, the bride’s bouquet (if the choice fell on the “floral” option) and the general mood of the newlyweds .